What To Do With Only 15 Minutes A Day In Your Marriage (Clip)
Let's set the stage here, okay? So, honey, can we spend 15 minutes together today? Say yes. All right. All right.
Great, right? So we're holding hands now. And physically, that is a signal to both of you to say, we're going to try being in love right now. And then the way to serve each other, I think a great way is to just ask the other person, how are you doing? And then quiet, quiet, listen, right? We'll lend an ear, have nothing to say back.
No judgment, just allowing them to talk and share and speak what's on their heart and express themselves. And the other person's job too is to not have it be about themselves. For example, for you to not go and try to tell me about all the stuff you wish I was doing again.
And then when that person is sharing, not trying to fix that, not trying to tell them what they should be doing, but literally just listening. Sometimes listening is the greatest act of service that you can give to that other person. And I think especially if you haven't talked for a long time together, when you come with the other person, the first thing you want to do is listen.
But take turns, listen to the other person, say nothing. And hopefully they'll ask you back. Hopefully they'll say, how are you? If you are in a space right now where you really have rarely connected and you're finding hard to have some good, positive, meaningful connections, once you start doing it, you're going to say, why didn't we do this before? You're going to say, wow, this made all the difference.
This was the highlight of my day. I can't wait to do this again tomorrow. And you're going to want to start connecting again.
