The Steve Nam Podcast

Hi, my name is Steve Nam. I'm the founder of Redeemed Man, and I have a question for you. Are you ready to quit porn and experience real freedom? What if I told you that there's a proven system that helps you break free from the grip of pornography once and for all? So let's talk about who it's for and who it's not for.

First, I'm looking to help Christian men whose struggle with porn is currently affecting their marriage, their dating relationship, or their confidence in finding someone. I'm also looking for Christian men whose porn addiction is limiting their mindset, their energy, their productivity, and even their creativity with their work, which does directly affect their ability to earn more income. I'm also looking for Christian men who feel like they've reached a plateau spiritually, or maybe they've actually been backsliding and they sense or they know that it's due to them not being obedient in this area of quitting porn.

They feel like God's called them to follow through in it, or he's asking them, he's leading them to follow through in it, but they just haven't done it yet, and because they haven't broken free, because they're chained and they're held slave to sin, they're not able to unlock the next level or the work that God has prepared for them. See, so many Christian men are wrestling with pornography in secret. They are fighting this battle alone, and they are being held captive and being defeated continuously by their uncontrollable thoughts and urges, and it leads them to act out in ways that make them feel so ashamed.

But I have to say, this program is not going to be for those who aren't ready to commit fully to change. So if you're looking for a quick fix or aren't willing to put in the work, this is not really going to be for you. But if you're ready to truly transform your life and break free from the chains of pornography, then keep listening.

And by the way, in case you're wondering, you know how I know this? You know how I know the thoughts that run through the mind of a guy who's addicted to porn? It's because I was that guy. I struggled with porn for way too long. I spent so much time with accountability partners who were stuck in the same place I was.

I installed all the filters, the porn blockers. I read my Bible more. I fasted.

I prayed harder. I confessed my sin to my girlfriend, to my family, to my close friends. I prayed to God countless times on my knees, repenting, begging for mercy, pleading for forgiveness, asking God for a way out for Him to deliver me.

But no matter what I asked or what I prayed or what I said or how much resolve I thought I had coming out of that, I would seem to just keep going longer and longer and deeper into my addiction. And I couldn't figure it out. I'd have times where I was doing better, and then one slip would just restart the cycle all over again.

I was hoping for an answer, but I just didn't have a way that really worked. And eventually, I just thought, there's no way that I'm ever going to truly be free. It's just going to be this endless struggle for the rest of my life.

And so I just started telling myself, hey, look, maybe you'll never become free. Just go easy on yourself. Look, all guys deal with this.

And I told myself these lies for so many years. And whether it's rooted in the truth or in a lie, the story that you tell yourself tends to be the story that plays out. And unfortunately, this was my story.

But it doesn't have to be your story because your life can change forever if you're open to it. Now, let me show you how our powerful process can revolutionize your life, your relationships, your finances, your mission and purpose as a man, your connection with your creator on a day-to-day basis. See, the old way of trying to quit porn involves relying on willpower alone.

Maybe you've heard that if only you tried praying harder, if only you read your Bible, if maybe you fasted, if you relied on more grit and strength and just powering through it and going cold turkey and abstaining, and maybe you should try talking to another partner, get an accountability partner, get some accountability in your life you've heard, right? Maybe you should try deleting your apps on your phone. Try some blocking filters. Install one of those porn blockers, right? Maybe you should restrict your technology usage.

Maybe you should put the computer in the other room. Or maybe you're not going to church enough. Maybe you need to get more spiritual.

Try confessing to a pastor. Try reading more books or listening to some podcasts or going through some YouTube videos. Maybe you should try cold showers or going to the gym, keeping busy all day, staying out of the house, staying at work longer, or maybe you try therapy or some counseling, right? Most of these solutions are merely putting band-aids on the actual problem, and it's just masking what's going on in the outside without taking care of the root problems on the inside.

And maybe you can relate. You want to have the self-control to make the right choice, but you keep making the wrong ones. You want to be able to choose purity for your wife, for your future wife, for God, for yourself, but you just keep giving into your temptations.

You want to try harder. You want to find the motivation to get better. You want to follow through on the things you know you're convicted about, but even your best attempts just seem to fall short, and they're just not good enough.

Any progress you seem to make is short-lived, and soon you're reverting back to your old ways, your old habits, and it leaves you even more hopeless about ever becoming free from porn. It is an endless cycle that just repeats itself over and over. Every month, every week, sometimes every day, you get deeper, and it either scares the heck out of you, like, what is happening to me? What am I becoming? Or you go numb to avoid the pain of disappointing yourself so many times.

And I want you to know it's not your fault. You've been given some bad advice from people who likely have never successfully quit porn themselves, and so they couldn't lead you through what you needed to do in order to get real freedom from it for yourself. Now, I know these people are well-meaning, but if it reflects the sentiment of, if only you tried harder, or if only you wanted it more, maybe that is actually reflective of the negative self-talk that you beat yourself up with.

I want to encourage you, you don't have to do that. That's not going to work. Now, I applaud you for trying to get free of porn.

It's certainly better than just simply giving up. But unfortunately, if you're like most men who've been trying, you've come across these so-called solutions, tried them, and still arrived at dead ends every time. But what if I told you there was a better way? See, the new way is about addressing the root causes of your addiction.

It's about rewiring your brain. And it's about building a new lifestyle that supports your freedom. It's about understanding the deeper reasons behind your struggles and tackling them head on.

So I'm going to share with you the system that we've created to help guys quit porn and transform their lives. And these are the same exact strategies that I used to break free from porn in my own life. And now I am dedicated to helping other men just like you apply these methods to achieve freedom and all without resorting to the same nonsense tactics that they've been told all their lives to try.

You see, my life's work is now committed to helping ordinary men create extraordinary results in their lives. And in particular, I work with Christian men who know that their issue with porn is what is preventing them from being the man that God has called them to be. So maybe it's in their marriage, their relationship, or ability or confidence to get into a relationship, to relate well, to love and to receive love, to one day show up with integrity and congruence for their woman.

They know that it's impossible to fully get there while allowing porn to remain in the picture. Or maybe it's in their career and the productivity where they know they could be building the business of their dreams, or leveling up in their company and providing more income for themselves and for their family. But they're wasting so much time, and they're blowing so much energy on their addiction that they know deep down that they'll never get there without taking care of their problem.

And so our system is based on these three key pillars, and that is what will lead you to lasting freedom. The first thing that we're going to do is we're going to identify and address the root causes. We'll help you uncover the underlying issues that drive your addiction.

So this could be past trauma, maybe it's false beliefs, unmet needs. It could be a lot of different things. But the key here is that by addressing these root causes, that's how we neutralize the power of the addiction at the source.

All right, and then next we're going to work on rewiring your brain. See, pornography addiction changes your brain's neural pathways. You might have come across some of the research.

What we'll do is we will guide you through specific exercises and techniques that will help you to rewire your brain, and it'll create new healthy patterns of thinking, and also what results in new behaviors. After that, to sustain everything and all the changes, what we need to do is to build a new lifestyle. See, freedom isn't just about stopping a behavior, it's about creating a new way of actually living.

It's about doing life differently. And so we'll help you develop new habits to build stronger relationships, we'll help you connect more deeply with God, and really fill that void that pornography once occupied. How does that sound? Right? See, when you fix the root issues, not only do you make it easier to quit porn so that you can use less effort, but you now free up so much time and energy that you can use to maximize all the other areas of your life.

And I know that sounds crazy right now, maybe it sounds like this far-fetched, okay, let's take care of that later, Steve, but it is possible. And I say that with deep conviction, having experienced that for myself, you really get to start to dream again, and you start to feel more in line with the person you're supposed to be, with how you really want to be acting. You can handle temptation without feeling weak, without feeling scared, without feeling conflicted about it, right? You can really just approach things with a new level of confidence, with a new level of power, and you're really just more aligned with the man that you feel like you were created to be.

Can you just imagine waking up every morning, you're free from guilt or shame, you're taking charge of the direction of your day, and you're in full control of your urges, your thoughts, your emotions, and in turn, your actions. You'll experience restored relationships, increased productivity, and a deeper connection with God. Many of our clients report feeling like they've reclaimed their true selves.

They get to live with an integrity and a purpose that they just hadn't known was possible for them. Now, I know you might be thinking, well, what if I've tried everything and nothing has worked? Or what if I'm too far gone? Now, I have deep empathy for that. I've been where you are, and I understand the mindset.

I want to reassure you, you have not tried everything. See, I know that you know deep down, if you actually dealt with your root causes, this problem wouldn't keep resurfacing. And second, I want to encourage you, because no one is beyond hope.

All right? Our program has helped men who have struggled for decades, and that's myself included. And I understand feeling like you're a hopeless case. These men all felt that way.

You might also be wondering, well, what if I don't have time for this? Remember, the time that you're currently spending on your addiction and dealing with its consequences far outweighs the time that you'll spend in this program. This is an investment in your future, in becoming the man that God has created you to be. And if you're wondering, well, what if it's too expensive? I want you to consider the cost of not getting help, the potential loss of romantic relationships, of marriage or future marriage, of finances, of opportunities, of so many other blessings in every other area of life, and most importantly, losing your ultimate life source, your connection with God.

Your life can go down in so many ways when porn remains in the picture. And so this program is an investment that pays dividends in every area of your human existence. Jesus said, what good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? And I think that that does hit you, and it does bother you.

At least I hope it does. But I also think that what's at play here is that behind it all, there's a little bit of fear. And it disguises itself as a nagging voice that keeps asking you, well, what if this is just like last time? What if you're not fully committed? What if you'll never get free? What if freedom is not meant for you? What if it's impossible to be free? As a guy living in the world that we live in today with so much access to pornography at any time of the day that we want it, what if it's impossible? I'm here to tell you that it is possible.

I've experienced it myself, and I've seen so many men walk into freedom through this program. See, what makes our program unique is that we don't just focus on behavior modification, right? We go deep. We address the root causes of your addiction.

We combine biblical principles with cutting edge neuroscience to provide a comprehensive approach to getting you free from porn. And unlike other programs that just throw material at you and let you figure it out like a Lone Ranger, we provide a supportive community of men who are also on the same journey. So you're going to have access to mentors who have walked this path before you, and they can guide you every step of the way.

See, our program isn't just about quitting porn. It's about becoming the man that God created you to be, right? It's about reclaiming your purpose, about restoring your relationships to others, to yourself, to God, and ultimately about finally giving yourself a chance to live a life of true freedom and congruence and integrity. So here is what you can do next.

You can be apathetic about it. You can continue to go around in cycles of frustration and shame, but look, I want to ask you, how much time will you allow to pass? How much life will you continue living with your addiction? All right? The other thing you can do is try to just muster up a new level of resolve to try to get on your own, right? Now, I don't want to be discouraging, but haven't you tried this on your own for long enough? Look, if you could have gotten free on your own, wouldn't you have figured it out by now? So please ask yourself, how much longer will you let your addiction control your life? You really don't know how much time you've got left before you get too deep into the addiction that it completely takes you out or pushes you farther than you ever thought possible. I mean, haven't you ever wondered you couldn't just be one slip away from making that life altering decision that ruins your entire life, ruins your marriage, ruins your family? Or maybe you think you just got things under control and you're okay with just a little bit longer before you do something about it.

My friend, as they say, please check yourself before you wreck yourself. All right? Pride comes before the fall. So if you're still listening to me now, I'm urging you, you are already in this far.

You already know what you need to do. You have a lifeline that I wish I had when I was in your state. You can get the system to defeat porn once and for all in your life and have the fulfilling and powerful results of living a clean and pure life.

Don't you want that? What would life be like if you had that? So if you're ready to take the next step, here's what I want you to do. There are directions somewhere on this page. Take action.

Take action now and start your journey to freedom. Don't wait another day continuing to live in the bondage that you're living in. Jesus said, the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy.

I have come that they may have life and have it to the full. My friend, I know that you may be a Christian man right now who is sick and tired of being stuck in the cycle of lust, shame, and guilt and you want to let go of your porn habit. You want to rebuild your life.

You want to have purity. You want to have integrity. You want to live in congruence with what you believe.

You want to step into power. You want to walk with confidence and you want to live a life that reflects your faith, reflects your values, that honors and glorifies your creator. All right, so listen, I believe that this could be the best investment that you make with your time and if there's any last hesitation, I just want to encourage you.

Look, I only work with clients who I'm confident that I can help and what I've learned is that the guys who once they know they need to do something, they decide, they commit, they follow through, they take action, they don't hesitate. Look, it's a no-brainer. Those are the ones who are going to be the most likely to quit porn the fastest, the easiest, and they are the ones who are going to remain clean for their future.

And so if you know right now that you need to talk to someone, don't just be the average guy and just be someone who thinks about it and never does anything about it, okay? You don't have to do this alone. You don't need to stay trapped in your addiction. There is a way out.

I really want you to think about how much further ahead that you could be, how fast you could go. I mean, just imagine how much progress you could make if you were plugged in with a group of guys, with mentors who have already overcome porn, who could show you the way out, okay? That is the best way to do it, all right? Rely on the wisdom, rely on the experience of people who have gone before. My friend, this is your moment.

This is the time where you step into the life that you have been praying for. Imagine living a porn-free life, you living as the man that you know you want to be, that you were created to be, that you are unlocking this person that you may have never experienced before, but you know is possible for you, okay? You having interactions with women that are pure, you stepping into your life's work with power, you having confidence in the way that you carry yourself, having fulfillment with living a life that is congruent, that has integrity, and your connection to God being stronger than ever. My friend, this is what I want for you.

This is what I believe God wants for you. And I know deep down, this is what you want for yourself. But if you want to walk on water, you've got to step out of the boat.

You've got to take the first step on the journey. So let's get you into freedom, and I'll talk to you very soon.