Handle Your Emotions Before The Discussion (Clip)
You don't always have to tell your spouse, right? Like it may be something that concerns her, but does it need to be expressed to her first, right? Like maybe you talk to a friend first about it. Maybe you talk to a mentor or a counselor or just somebody trusted about it first. If it's something that you feel like you can't come to them without being so riled up about it.
It's not healthy to just repress all that, never feel like, okay, well, since I always explode, I might as well not say anything. You do need to express it. You just wanna make sure you have it a healthy way, a healthy outlet of doing that.
And again, it doesn't always have to be directly to your spouse at first. Maybe your spouse is the one who's aggravated you and you just go to someone who's not the source of aggravation first. And they can help you through those emotions first.
And then you can go, okay, I understand now more about what my feelings really are. I understand now more of the issues that are relevant to bring up to her. And so now I understand what I wanna actually communicate.
And I know there's an instinct there, especially if you're hot-tempered or hot-headed to just and let somebody have it. But when cooler heads prevail, it's always a better thing. And you're always gonna feel more wise in your decision for doing that.
